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Keeping it all balanced

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People are fond of asking one-person bands about how they’re able to keep track of everything. Whether you’re a solo or not, it’s not always easy when you’ve embraced the job full bore and don’t know which way to go.

Managing personalities is a full-time job. If solos know anything, it’s you have to manage personalities if you’re going to be successful. Whereas others have teams to fall back on, if you’re having to maintain fragile relationships, you can’t afford to burn bridges when you have to rely on those people to assist you on core parts of your day to day responsibilities. While it’d be lovely if we could separate these things, the reality is, we’re not and you need to navigate these interactions with dexterity.

When we feel overwhelmed it’s important to have things outside of work that center us. We all take pride in our jobs. But it’s not always the work that gets us. It’s the Buy Viagra side projects and ancillary things we do in connection with the job. The committees, the extra assignments and stuff we do to help others that will often be the culprit in knocking us down.

It takes patience and finding ways to keep ourselves afloat. Hustle is hope, but so is taking downtime for yourself. If you’re like me, sometimes that means spinning between one project to the next trying to figure out WHAT you should be doing. I have friends who feel downright guilty for focusing on themselves. But self-reflection, quiet and space are too critical for you not to take time.

Head to a conference, get to know others and enjoy your time. But remember to take a few deep breaths and figure out who you are. What matters to you and what’s important. Centering yourself will make you better and give you the balance you need to keep yourself from falling completely off the seesaw.

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Thanks from the Higher Ed Solo team

Sticking with the theme of thanks, Tonya & Ron wanted to say thanks to you all for making this such a great year. It’s hard to start a blog, especially a bi-no-coastal blog focusing on a niche (but important) subject. But you all have been our biggest fans and we’ve noticed it, appreciated it and look forward to making proud in 2013.

So in typical .edu fashion, here’s our team holiday greeting.

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Giving Gifts (At Work)

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Despite the headline, this post has nothing to do with your office’s white elephant gift exchange or tactics to pick the right bow tie or mug for your secret water cooler Santa. Instead, I wanted to talk about the gifts each of us possess.

Sometimes, it’s really easy to be annoyed about the gifts we lack. Not just our own intrinsic box of talents, but those in our sphere of influence whether it’s colleagues, superiors or those reporting to us. You know, we sit around and say, “Wouldn’t it be nice to have someone who knew this or could do that?”

All very nice, useful things. But what about the people in your world who give us parts of themselves everyday, but we don’t notice? I like to say that the best gifts are things you’d “never buy for yourself, but are things you appreciate.” We come equipped with different talents. I’m intentionally being vague, because it’s the kind of thinking that needs to come from within. The people around us, if they’re useful at all, can be useful in immeasurable ways.

When we’re thinking about gifts — the ones we get, the ones we don’t get it — I’ve come to find that rather than lamenting what I didn’t get, that it’s far better to appreciate what we have and what we’ve received. And to be thankful.